Don't shield your children from bad news. It's important to be open and honest with them.
Make an effort to understand how your children feel about the divorce. You are going through a terrific emotional struggle yourself. Still, you must encourage children to talk openly about their feelings. Let them express anger and grief on their own terms.
During and after the divorce, don't expose your kids to arguments between the two of you. The children of divorcing parents must make some difficult adjustments. Don't add to the stress by fighting in front of them.
Reinforce to your child that the divorce is not their fault and that you both still love the child very much.